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How Can I Help Someone Who is Being Abused?

  • If a friend, family member, co-worker is being abused, you can reach out and help them.
  • Believe them and keep whatever you're told confidential.
  • Don't blame them. The abused person is NOT responsible for being hurt and does not deserve to be abused.
  • Each person needs to tell their story in their own time and space. Take the time to talk privately with your friend or co-worker. Ask about suspicious bruises or fights that you know about.
  • Validate feelings. Your friend may feel hurt, angry, afraid, ashamed or trapped.
  • Understand that it is difficult to leave a home or someone you live with, and they may go back several times before leaving for good. Your friend's solutions may not be the same as yours.
  • Help them plan how to stay safe when the violence happens.
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